Fabulous AND Flawed


I’ve been dieting recently – but I keep a stash of Dove dark chocolates in the house so I can have one purely decadent moment a day…  Yes, it’s cheating.  Yes, it will probably slow the weight loss.  But heck!  Life is short – and what is life without a little chocolate?!


So, I open my little rule-breaking cheat today – and inside the wrapper, it says, “It’s OK to be fabulous and flawed.”


Haven’t you always wanted someone to say that to you?

Seriously.  First and foremost, I am fabulous.  So are you.  Fabulous.

Now quick – name all the ways you’re fabulous!  No holding back – just yell out the things you love about yourself!

Here’s a few of mine:  I’m… a good listener.  I’m always laughing.  I find the good in just about any situation.  I usually have a twinkle in my eye.  Heck – I like my eyes.  They’re pretty.  I’m creative.  I love God.  I’m thankful.  I like to cook – and do it reasonably well.  I’m a wife, daughter, sister, friend – oh!  And mom.  And I love all those roles.  I like a good adventure.  And a good book.  And making a new friend.  I love life… all the nitty gritty and the pure magic.

Ok…  So first we have to admit we’re fabulous – just the way we are.

Now…  It’s ok to be flawed.

It’s about time!   Hallelujah!

I’m totally flawed – you?  My hair frizzes out to Timbuktu.  My feet are wide (like – think “duck feet”).  I cheat on my diet.  I don’t exercise enough.  I procrastinate.  I don’t always follow through.  I can be really naive.  And gullible.  And too trusting.  I’m stubborn and like to do things my own way.  I rarely floss.  I can be lazy.  I can’t use Twitter for the life of me – no matter how many times I’ve tried to get on board.  I have no idea who “One Direction” is – and I don’t care.  I haven’t read “Fault in Our Stars” and I probably won’t for quite a while.  If I could eat pizza every day for the rest of my life, I would.

Perfectly flawed.  (And there are so many more for that list…!)

It’s a nice little reminder, though, isn’t it?  It’s OK to be fabulous and flawed.

Good thing because I’m pretty sure every one of us is both.  And it’s OK.  Laugh it off.  Celebrate the good.  Be thankful that the flaws aren’t worse than they are!

And then, enjoy the magic that is today…  And for goodness sake – enjoy it with some chocolate!


Do You Like You?

What a great video – and perfect timing for me to see it!  This new stay-at-home-mama gig has me rediscovering priorities and what self-esteem feels like…  It’s interesting when you spend an entire day at home (and it’s not just a vacation, lazy day kind of thing) – what do you do?  wear?  make-up or no?  blow dry and curl the hair or not?  And if I choose not to do these things…  Can I walk past a mirror and not cringe?!

Or will I just feel ugly and lazy…?

It’s a weird thing…  Even when we’re by ourself, do we let society’s notion of beauty decide for us?  Or do we notice new things about ourselves?  Find new strengths?  See ourselves as “more than?”

This is really only the first full week I’ve been home with the kid since my last day of work, 3 weeks ago, and I’ve kind of decided if I’m not going anywhere why bother?  I get dressed in comfy clothes and skip the hair and make-up.  It’s so liberating!  Ha ha ha.  And then I walk past a mirror…  And see new things.

I see a mama.  And I see the beautiful little boy attached to my hip, smiling at our reflection.  I see that my laugh lines are getting deeper since he joined our little family.  I see the smile that lights up my face as his chubby hands grab my cheeks.  I see my hair, frizzy and huge – and know it fills his big eyes with wonder when my hair escapes from the pony tail.  I see my forehead, beginning to wrinkle from learning and concentrating on this thing called parenting….


It may not be beautiful to Hollywood, or fashion magazines, or those who crave perfection.  But honestly, I feel pretty beautiful most days in this role called Mom.  I didn’t know what I was missing before this little man entered my life.  And now, I feel more whole than I ever have before.

Do you like you?  What does it mean to fully embrace who we are and our own unique beauty?  What does it take to let the world’s perception of beauty fall away and simply appreciate our bodies and spirits for what they are?

Tomorrow, I’m once again beginning a new weight loss journey (“once again” because I got side-tracked with my pregnancy!).  Am I doing it to be skinny and gorgeous?  No.  (But I’m ok with that side-effect.)  I’m doing it to regain a healthy body and spirit – that can be up to new adventures and possibilities.  I want a life of trying new things and chasing after my son.  I want to go on grand journeys with my husband and discover new places.  I want my mind to be sharp and my eyes to be bright.  I want to be healthy so I can serve the world in bigger and bolder ways…  Sharing God’s love.

I believe God made us – each one – to be unique and beautiful.  And for me…  I need to take a few moments each day and claim that.  Look in the mirror.  Stare at the reflection with no make-up, no hairdo, no photoshop…  Find one thing to love.  Every day.  A new challenge to myself – and maybe to you?

Do you like you?  I hope so…!

Oh yes, you shaped me first inside, then out;
you formed me in my mother’s womb.
I thank you, High God—you’re breathtaking!
Body and soul, I am marvelously made!
I worship in adoration—what a creation!
You know me inside and out,
you know every bone in my body;
You know exactly how I was made, bit by bit,
how I was sculpted from nothing into something.
Like an open book, you watched me grow from conception to birth;
all the stages of my life were spread out before you,
The days of my life all prepared
before I’d even lived one day.  –Psalm 139:13-16